Cassie was asking what an OBC and ABC was. I explained to her what each thing was. I said that an OBC is an original birth certificate and it has who your parents are. She commented that an ABC must mean Altered Birth Certificate. I said well close enough it means amended or changed to represent the people that raise you.
She then asked me if Alyssa and I both had a DNA test done would it show that we shared DNA. Remember Cassie is 12 years old. I said yes it would show we share the same DNA. Adoption can not change who your descendants or ancestors are. It changes who raises you. It changes who you grow up calling mom and dad. Cassie said I'm glad they can't change her DNA, enough has been taken away already from my sister and me.
Wow! Very insightful for a little girl. Thanks for sharing that. My boys really don't say much when it comes to their sister or what they feel that their losses are. They have both met her but so far haven't seen her again. :(
ReplyDeleteDuring the era of mass surrenders, the LDS culture taught that an adoptee's DNA was *literally* changed when they were sealed to the adopted parents. (Insert dramatic sigh and eye roll here.)
ReplyDeleteGood thing science debunked that crazy myth.
@Sostinkin happy. WTF? Seriously how could that possibly be taught? What a way to mess up adoptees and natural mothers.
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