Notes on facebook by Hanne anderson
To all people considering obtaining an infant via "adoption":
1. Have you really thought about the permanent soul destruction you are doing to a mother and infant by separating them? Or is your desire for an infant so strong that you cannot even consider that perhaps you are engaging in something that is sinister and more than likely illegal? Do you even care?
2. Do you not see that cutting the cord in the hospital and "catching the baby" is exploitive and barbaric?
3. Do you not see that soliciting for a pregnant girl or young woman is exploitive and unethical?
4. Do you not see that paying any amount of money for an infant is sickening? Do you realize when your child finds out how much you paid for them they may feel like they were a slave to be bought and sold?
5. Do you tell yourself and others and say "well she willingly gave away her baby?" You need to know that most mothers whose infants have been adopted did not "willingly give away" their babies. Saying and believing that mothers "willingly give away" their babies is a myth. Most mothers that are not interfered with by prospective adopters and their agents, and who are honoured and supported during their pregnancy and motherhood will do what nature and God intended and parent their babies.
6. Do you lie to yourself and tell yourself that there are so many "orphans" out their that need to be rescued? Do you realize that the majority of children in orphanages have been kidnapped from their families and trafficked? Do you realize that by participating in the trafficking of children for adoption that you are also assisting the same illegal organizations that traffic children for organ harvesting (yes they murder the children for their organs), child sex slavery, and pedophelia? Do you care?
7. Are you lying to yourself and saying that because it is an "open adoption" that it is ok? Are you considering closing the adoption once the paperwork is finalized so you can have the baby all to yourself?
8. Do you justify taking a mother's baby because believe the myth that they are crack addicted whores? or a pregnant teen, or a welfare queen that shouldn't be allowed to parent because they are not as priveldged as you are?
9. Are you an adopted person who has also adopted an infant? Did you know that many adopted people that adopt an infant are trying to normalize the trauma of being separated from their mother?
10. Did you know as an adopted young women and if you get pregnant you have a 900% higher risk that you will loose your infant to adoption? Did you know that this is because your adopters will be threatened by your fertility and they are also concerned that you will leave them and go find your mother and father?
11. Do you keep telling yourself "well she could have had an abortion?" to justify taking her child for yourself and interfering with her pregnancy and exploit her for her baby? Do you realize when you say "she could always have had an abortion" you are saying that women should be legally subjected to forced pregnancy in order to supply you with a baby? How is this NOT reproductive slavery? Do you realize that many mothers when choosing to continue with their pregnancy most do so because they want to parent?
12. Do you just keep lying to yourself and everyone else saying it is "God's Plan?" Newsflash: God didn't plan this you did. So take responsibility for using pregnant vulnerable young women and girls as your reproductive slaves. God would NEVER plan to have the infertiles exploit vulnerable pregnant young women in such a barbaric and inhumane act as reproductive slavery and infant "adoption."
To all people considering obtaining an infant via "adoption":
1. Have you really thought about the permanent soul destruction you are doing to a mother and infant by separating them? Or is your desire for an infant so strong that you cannot even consider that perhaps you are engaging in something that is sinister and more than likely illegal? Do you even care?
2. Do you not see that cutting the cord in the hospital and "catching the baby" is exploitive and barbaric?
3. Do you not see that soliciting for a pregnant girl or young woman is exploitive and unethical?
4. Do you not see that paying any amount of money for an infant is sickening? Do you realize when your child finds out how much you paid for them they may feel like they were a slave to be bought and sold?
5. Do you tell yourself and others and say "well she willingly gave away her baby?" You need to know that most mothers whose infants have been adopted did not "willingly give away" their babies. Saying and believing that mothers "willingly give away" their babies is a myth. Most mothers that are not interfered with by prospective adopters and their agents, and who are honoured and supported during their pregnancy and motherhood will do what nature and God intended and parent their babies.
6. Do you lie to yourself and tell yourself that there are so many "orphans" out their that need to be rescued? Do you realize that the majority of children in orphanages have been kidnapped from their families and trafficked? Do you realize that by participating in the trafficking of children for adoption that you are also assisting the same illegal organizations that traffic children for organ harvesting (yes they murder the children for their organs), child sex slavery, and pedophelia? Do you care?
7. Are you lying to yourself and saying that because it is an "open adoption" that it is ok? Are you considering closing the adoption once the paperwork is finalized so you can have the baby all to yourself?
8. Do you justify taking a mother's baby because believe the myth that they are crack addicted whores? or a pregnant teen, or a welfare queen that shouldn't be allowed to parent because they are not as priveldged as you are?
9. Are you an adopted person who has also adopted an infant? Did you know that many adopted people that adopt an infant are trying to normalize the trauma of being separated from their mother?
10. Did you know as an adopted young women and if you get pregnant you have a 900% higher risk that you will loose your infant to adoption? Did you know that this is because your adopters will be threatened by your fertility and they are also concerned that you will leave them and go find your mother and father?
11. Do you keep telling yourself "well she could have had an abortion?" to justify taking her child for yourself and interfering with her pregnancy and exploit her for her baby? Do you realize when you say "she could always have had an abortion" you are saying that women should be legally subjected to forced pregnancy in order to supply you with a baby? How is this NOT reproductive slavery? Do you realize that many mothers when choosing to continue with their pregnancy most do so because they want to parent?
12. Do you just keep lying to yourself and everyone else saying it is "God's Plan?" Newsflash: God didn't plan this you did. So take responsibility for using pregnant vulnerable young women and girls as your reproductive slaves. God would NEVER plan to have the infertiles exploit vulnerable pregnant young women in such a barbaric and inhumane act as reproductive slavery and infant "adoption."
How many other mothers have had this conversation in their heart/head?
What a really thought-provoking and honest post. I believe any prospective adoptive parent and social worker should ask those very questions. This is the first time I have actually ever heard a birthmom talk about the one thing that I also promised myself when I placed my daughter- I felt so alone and abandoned and without resources that I felt that if I placed my daughter, she would never go through being a birthmom. I was utterly convinced that because I didn't have the support of the birthfather and my family couldn't really help, there would be a huge chance that we would end up homeless or she would lack in many ways. After meeting her parents I felt an overwhelming feeling of, well at least I know that in THIS family she will never end up placing a child so I will spare her that pain. I cannot predict what will happen in the future and I'm mad at myself for following the line of thinking. I love my daughter's parents I do not mean any disrespect to them but I gasped when I read this post, that is what I said to myself when I placed my daughter too. :(
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