Is adoption as it is today justified, right or moral? I don't believe it is. In adoption, a child's birth certificate is replaced by a falsified birth certificate - an amended birth certificate. Even my daughter at a very young age couldn't understand why her aparents were listed on her birth certificate. They adopted her they never gave birth to her they do not share her DNA, linage, or her family. A child can see that it isn't right, how as adults do we justify it? A child's name is changed, the parents are changed, sometimes the birth date is changed, and even the city and county can be changed. Can we get anymore false of a document?
If you believe that that practice is honorable then by all means, continue to believe in adoption. I do not approve that any birth certificate is sealed by our government because another set of parents wanted to parent a child. The same goal can be accomplished by guardianship which does not seal and falsify a child’s birth certificate. Nor does Guardianship destroy any ongoing visitation, contact, and relationship building with the child’s extended natural family. Adoption tries to destroy these bonds.
Falsified birth certificates changes an adoptee’s identity and that is an immoral intended consequence of adopting a child. Provide a home with parents, but keep the child’s birth identity intact! Guardianship by a caring couple only after all other possible solutions to the child’s care are exhausted. The only humane thing in adoption is to keep all natural ties. I know it is hard on the adoptive couple. After all they want a child. They didn't want an extended family. But no child is a blank slate. Every single child has parents, has ancestors, is already wired with their looks and personality. I know the concern is "but what if the natural parents bond too much with their child?" Of course they will bond. They have bonded for 9 months before the child was adopted. I am still bonded with my daughter even though we were separated for 18 years. That does not mean a child will not learn to bond with adoptive parents too. Do we bond with more than 1 sibling? Do we bond with more than one aunt, uncle, friend, grandparent? Then a child can bond with multiple parents too.
A child's birth certificate should NEVER be sealed and NEVER falsified and those are consequences to the adoptee of the adoption process. This affects the identity of the adoptee forever, and that of their children and subsequent generations. It is very hard to do a genealogical search and find documents to prove lineage once an adoption takes place. An adoptee’s lineage is sealed upon adoption. That is immoral, unjust, unethical as if the adoptee is an owned person. The child by law is no longer part of his, family, tribe, or ancestors. The child has been bought and now belongs to a whole new family. Yes I consider when you pay for and get a receipt you have bought a child. I know the positive adoption language is adopt but it really is the same thing.
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